Then again, I'm just a teenager...

Wow, that just destroyed all images of marriage and love and I haven't even left high school! Wow, I mean I'm not going to say I was totally disillusioned, I know that the love and passion doesn't last hence the phrase 'honeymoon phase', that wasn't just invented for fun. While I agree with some of the things that she said, I just can't bring myself to buy it. Settle? I don't think that's the right word and I don't think that's the right attitude. Granted, like I said, I'm young, I'm not even close to that point where I'm looking for someone to marry *shiver*, but she took something that is supposed to have some sort of romanticism and stripped it down to something unrecognizable, something corporate and cold. I agree that Mr. Right probably doesn't exist (damn you Disney and Stephanie Meyer for putting the thoughts of the 'perfect man' in my head), but there has to be someone that is close to mr. right. Right? I think that part of my ideas of marriage do have to do with the fact that I grew up in America where at a very young age we are taught to idealize marriage and think that the perfect man is out there, we just had to eat a poisoned apple or leave our glass shoe's laying around. I mean think about it, when you're little, did your parents fight around you? or did they save it for after you went to bed? At the end of a fairy-tale does the princess find that her prince charming has a weird obsession with soaps and burps after every meal? No! In fact you don't hear much from the men/ princes at all, they don't even get you to the wedding. So they build it up to something unrealistic, something wonderful and magical, and while I know that's not true, I also think that there is more to marriage then just 'oh they look like they'll be a good father, there has to be more then that because after eighteen years, what's left? You're just left there staring at a stranger you settled for, that you don't have much in common with and might not actually like (depending on the situation). I think marriage should be more about respect, you should respect them and (almost) everything about them. I think a lot about what the author was saying has some validity to it, but I also think she's OVER settling, which in the long run, will end up just as miserably. But then again what do I know, I'm just a teenager.